Is this your calling card?

Damn i almost wish the answer to this question was YES.

People too easily jump into relationships. What happened to the fine art of dating? Of meeting people, getting to know them as people, before considering them as potential mates? The art of dating gives you the opportunity to meet wonderful people (hopefully) and find out things about yourself depending on what works best in dating scenarios. It teaches you what you want. Which to me, is WHY this calling card is awesome!

If i was single, and was at a point in my life as a young professional where i was dating around enough to BAIL if people get weird, i would LOVE to have a card like this. the only down sides are that it can be considered insensitive, cold, routinized...but that doesnt matter. this isn't about the men who have lost you, or at least are not worth getting to know more of, its about YOU. do what you want. :)

What about Breakfast at Tiffany's?

I full heartedly believe in this statement. This statement also reminds me of this passage i read in a book for one of my classes. Love is beautiful and magnificent and unites two people. Love, in my opinion should be a combination of passion and friendship. Because, as i noted during this class, passion is as a flame. It flickers. Some days it is brighter than the other. Sometimes it can wither a little, unfortunately sometimes with time, age, and responsibilities, it can dull. But if you have friendship in your relationship, in your love, it's what gets you through the times when your flame is flickering a little less.

maybe i'll always fear commitment...

I wonder sometimes about relationships. If we're all doing them right, in our different ways. Or if we're all doing them wrong, in every way. I don't wonder about love. I feel like when you're in love- you just know. You can feel it in your toes, everywhere. It's this palpable knowledge..not even a feeling anymore. Where you can be absolutely ridiculous with someone. Silly. Teasing. I don't think there is anything wrong with love. No, love is easy. It feels right. The problem comes when you put your love under the parameters of a relationship. Relationships suck! So many questions, situations, challenges, ideals, and feelings come into conflict with one another. Basically, you can be in love but a relationship puts two people in direct conflict with one another. You love one another so you have to feel each other out..you have to learn. .relearn. .group. .regroup. .continue. And sometimes it fails. Sometimes you have to start again. And because the relationship fails...you are forced to make the love fail. One falls out of love...the other is dragged out of love. And it hurts. Because the comfort your body- your essence- YOU- got used to, is being wrenched apart. You have to adjust. And it's not easy.

So all of this just makes me wonder, if being in love is so great, what makes a relationship so damn difficult?

What you want out of it, for one. Quirks. Interests. Past, present, and future decisions... it's all a crap shoot. hit or miss.

And some people think they didn't miss..that they found the one for them. But then you take the beautiful love..wrapped in a (we'll call it) functional relationship...and then you put it under the parameters of marriage. Then you hit the big challenges...Money. Time. Goals. Priorities. Sacrifices (whether for your partner or for your relationship) Skills. Ideals. How your going to raise your kids. And heaven forbid you both change into people you don't even know. Because that's going to happen. You are both going to change, hopefully you'll grow towards each other rather than away from each other. And hopefully when you both change, you can still recognize who you loved in that person. Hopefully it's a change for the better...for the both of you. But is that really reasonable to expect? Your 20. Or your 22. Or your 25...it doesn't matter. Who are you going to be when your 30? or 40? or even 65? I'm not telling you it can't work. I'm telling you that you yourself are going to want things from yourself you didn't' want now. Isn't that at least a little scary?

SO my point is. When you fall in love..it's so hard to wrench yourself from people or individuals your madly in love with..people you want to try soooo hard to BE WITH. but if your trying so hard, how much is too much? Ask yourself then (when your young and in love) what you may not be able to afford to ask yourself THEN (when your 45 and you don't even know who you married). Draw lines. Have deal breakers. YOU HAVE A RIGHT TO BE CHOOSY.

now only if i could listen to my own advice pfffft, i'm in love, who am i kidding?